The above video shows how imperfections in a partner can make a relationship beautiful. It is express through the eulogy of the lady who recently lost her husband. In life we have indeed tried too hard, looking around for the perfect person or trying to be perfect for our partner. I guess from the video we can learn to appreciate the imperfections of the other person in order for us to truly love him/her.
We can be attracted to the other party physical appearance or similarities/differences but these are just the initial factors which result in the formation of the relationship. However, to manage and maintain the relationship we need trust and commitment which are the two very important factors. And of course, the ability to accept who they are and appreciate them.
This second clip shows what an individual will do for their partner and in this instance, she is willing to risk her life so that her dying husband can hold the son just in time. Just take the question that was being asked in the video, Why were we born? and What were we born for? I think all of us are born with the ability to love and to be loved by someone that matters to you. It is amazing because it's two different strangers that are willing to share their life with each other and created this bond that is so intense.
Personally, I think in most of our lives we have been searching for that perfect person or trying to get into the "best" relationship that we lost the happiness in the relationship. One simple example will be the snoring that the wife explain in the first video, most people might find it irritating or disgusted by it but only for her, she can look at it from a different point of view because it's who he is.
So we all should start putting the idea we have for our Mr/Ms Perfect and start to appreciate the people that truly love you. So commies, do you all share my view on this?
Don't let the imaginary person in your head keep you from loving the real one right in front of you. - Source: Deviant Art
These videos reminded us about how fragile a human life can be.
ReplyDeleteTo be living in Singapore, we are all so caught up with the reality of living that sometimes we have forget to nurture our spiritual side.
Live life to the fullest, care for your peers and family and do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
We can only live once. We need to fully appreciated the time that we have with our love ones and friends.
ReplyDeleteWith our limited time, We should not be afraid to be happy, to enjoy what is beautiful, to love, and to believe that those we love, love us.
Quote from Saint Augustine - "This is the very perfection of a man, to find out his own imperfections."
ReplyDeleteThe videos actually made me realize that love can actually move mountains. Its amazing how a feeling that cannot be seen or heard encourages hope through all the pain.
No matter how imperfect a being is when you love that person it is always a perfection.
Like the old saying goes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Nobody is perfect in this world but love will have its way to turn Mr/ Ms Imperfect into Mr/Ms Perfect in the eye of beholder.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, true love will make one accept and embrace his or her partner’s flaws and imperfection, just like how the lady in the first clip had embraced her late husband’s disturbingly loud snores.
It is just being human nature to want the best for everything we have in life and this is probably how the ideal boyfriend/ girlfriend checklist came about. Oops.
As a society with the culture that we are brought up in, taking a step back from life and appreciating all that is around you and with you is something that is not experienced.
ReplyDeleteAs individuals, we have been blessed with wonderful people around us that we would tend to under-appreciate and sometimes, it's impt for us to take a step back and see and thank all those that contributed to us being here.
In my opinion, true love is really found in the places where you would never expect it and no one will be perfect but it is in this imperfections that we grow closer and realise that each and every one of us are unique and wonderful individuals.
To those that are looking for love, it could be right under your nose. :)
To those that have found love, don't let it go. :)
The videos were a very touching addition to your entry. :) Loved it.
ReplyDeleteIt is amazing to see how two separate people can overlook each others differences and love them for their imperfections. Human beings are by nature self centered and to be able to place another person above ourselves is really very difficult. I didn't expect the lady to deliver her baby prematurely so that her dying husband could hold his little child and pass on with no regrets. The risk she is putting herself through is indeed commendable.
Relationships are easy to make but hard to maintain. I do hope that in whatever relationship whether parent and child, husband and wife or merely friends, we will always learn to treat one another with sincere love.
That is when all the sacrifices we make seem to fade in the glow of genuine and unselfish love. :)
"Don't let the imaginary person in your head keep you from loving the real one right in front of you"
ReplyDeleteQuestion to ponder:
What if the this friend mentioned above is not imaginary and there is a possibility of being toegther with this person still?
Anyway u feel strongly for what you have posted. I will like to provide an exmaple on how there is a difference between pretty and beautiful. Pretty refers to the facade of a person and it won't last. However, beautiful should be reserve for that special someone as it signify that you have learn to accept the person as who she is and this is long term appreciation.
As mention in the second video, it is for whom we live for. Before that, we have to first ackowledge who we are. Only by accepting yourself for who you are, are we liberating what is best of you to learn, live and most importantly, fight for the who in your life.
With this, i leave you with a question to ponder upon:
Are you allowing time to excuse you from ackowledging that person you love?
People often neglect their love ones & will not realise it until they are on the verge of losing them.
ReplyDeleteLove someone for who they are & not who you want them to be. Getting along well, having similar topic to chat on & the feelings for each other are some factors that spark off a relationship. When you love someone, you will care about how he/she felt on whatever decisions you made. You will also realised that whatever things that he/she said will be really important to you & will affect you in some ways be it positive/negative. Definitely disagreements & challenges will occured along the way but true love will be able to withstand it all.
Appreciate & love your love ones before you lose them, so take some time, stop whatever you are doing now, approach your love ones & tell them you love them ^^
"Don't let the imaginary person in your head keep you from loving the real one right in front of you"
ReplyDeleteNice.
It is true how physical appearance is one of the first stimuli that affect a person's perception before his or her judgement or first impression comes into place. Just like how the first video has portrayed. Trust and committment reallys in maintaining the relationship after the intial getting together stages. Yes, we do need to start realising people around us do care. So let us maintain those relationships with trust and commitment.
Just my two kents worth.
Love is an important feeling which can't be taught. It is an 'in-born' thing which humans will get to know once it develops. To love is to accept, to accept is to love. That is my own point of view.
ReplyDeleteThis brought to mind that how people are disregarding the scarcity of marriage. With the alarming rise divorce rates over the years, makes us ponder how people view marriage. As a obligation or a commitment.
ReplyDeleteWell in my opinion it is neither. But simply passion and desire to be with that special someone, that is what keeps the marriage "alive". In the case of the two videos, it is simply their selfless love that drives them on. The need and want for their other half to be happy.
We should not be seeking love but instead we should use our love for others to fuel our every thoughts and that would bring true love into our lives.
As quote from Charles Haddon Spurgeon: "Giving is true having." and James Joyce: "While you have a thing it can be taken from you... but when you give it, you have given it. No robber can take it from you. It is yours then for ever when you have given it. It will be yours always. That is to give."
Learn to love others a bit more and perhaps in doing so you'll gain the love you seek.
Family and friends are the ones who can help you when in you are in need, always be grateful to them.
ReplyDeleteDon't let the imaginary person in your head keep you from loving the real one right in front of you. -
ReplyDeletetotally agree on this statement. love the one who love u more then anyone dose. you cant get any more in-perfection when both human love each other with their whole heart. dun wait till you lose it then you will regret your whole life.
Although the couple came from different religion and race, they went through thick and thin together. They appreciated each other's companionship be it good or bad till the end of one's journey in life.What i'm trying to say is that to love someone is to love everything abt that person including his/her imperfection.
ReplyDeleteloving a person is loving his/her flaws altogether. which is difficult YET if you're able to achieve that, love becomes beautiful. i believe all of us have heard of the saying "noone's perfect". both you and i are imperfect.
ReplyDelete"Don't let the imaginary person in your head keep you from loving the real one right in front of you"
i guess many a times, the media has a part to play as well.
like for ladies, they should find someone who is: rich, good looking, nice, caring, good stable career..
for men, they should find ladies who are: pretty, well diversified in academics as well as sports, able to cook, have a stable career and all..
however, i feel that the BOTTOMLINE is:
love is never easy. follow your heart. finding a life partner is like finding the last piece of the jigsaw puzzle. you'd go through trials and tribulations. however, once found, it completes your life. :)